All moms are working moms. The challenges are different, though. Whether you work a 9 to 5 or stay at home with the kids — it’s all hard, hard work.
Are you a 9 to 5 working mother? Do any of these statements sound familiar?
- You never have enough time for your kids.
- You feel judged when you leave the office on time.
- You never have enough time to finish all your work.
- You don’t have enough time to run all your errands.
- You feel like you have to be in three places at once: work, some school activity, and cooking at home.
I’ve been a 9 to 5 working mom now for over a year. Due to the pandemic, I’ve been able to work mostly from home.
There are plenty of challenges but these are the challenges I face daily:
#1: People Don’t Respect My Boundaries
I’ve put in the hours and paid my dues. I don’t need to work insane hours anymore to prove myself.
I’ve worked hard to put boundaries in place, and now that I have a toddler to care for, it becomes even more critical.
I log on at a particular time, and I log off at a specific time. Irrespective of the number of hours I put in, my work is always done and up to standard.
Don’t message me when I’m offline. I’ve in any case switched off notifications on my phone, and my laptop is closed.
And don’t set up meetings late in the afternoon, like 4 or 5 pm. Or insanely early in the morning, like 7:30 am.
#2: My Child Crying For Me
Whether I’m working from home or going into the office, it breaks my heart when I have to hand my child to my nanny.
He cries uncontrollably and calls for me. It’s worse when I’m working from home because I can hear him even after I start.
Working makes me a better mommy.
But that doesn’t mean it’s easy letting go.
#3: This Notion Of “Fixed” Working Hours
Newsflash — as a parent, I have more responsibilities than just doing my work.
When my son gets sick, I need to take him to the doctor. We have a swimming pool, so I have to take him for swimming lessons — it’s a safety thing.
He needs to go for vaccinations. The list goes on.
My work is done and up to standard. Please don’t clock watch and point out that I took 30 minutes longer at lunchtime than allowed.
I’m sure there are many more challenges I can list. But these are my top 3.
What challenges do you face, mama? Let me know in the comments!